{"id":2972,"date":"2006-09-21T21:47:07","date_gmt":"2006-09-21T21:47:07","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.tamayacikel.com\/?p=115"},"modified":"2006-09-21T21:47:07","modified_gmt":"2006-09-21T21:47:07","slug":"ozgurlugu-sevmek-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.tamayacikel.com\/?p=2972","title":{"rendered":"\u00d6zg\u00fcrl\u00fc\u011f\u00fc Sevmek"},"content":{"rendered":"

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O\u011flum daha k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck bir \u00e7ocuktu. O zamanlar evimize temizli\u011fe gelen bir Ay\u015fe Teyzemiz vard\u0131. Yugoslavya g\u00f6\u00e7meniydi. \u00c7ok \u00e7ocuk do\u011furmu\u015f; birka\u00e7\u0131, san\u0131r\u0131m k\u00f6t\u00fc ya\u015fam ko\u015fullar\u0131ndan, bir k\u0131z\u0131 da 35 ya\u015f\u0131ndayken \u00e7ocu\u011funu do\u011furduktan sonra \u00f6lm\u00fc\u015ft\u00fc. Okuma yazma bilmezdi, ama \u00f6yle laflar ederdi ki\u2026<\/p>\n

O\u011flumun yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131 bir yaramazl\u0131\u011f\u0131, biraz yak\u0131narak anlatm\u0131\u015ft\u0131m bir seferinde, o da \u201cKo yaps\u0131n k\u0131z\u0131m, ko yaps\u0131n!\u201d<\/em> demi\u015fti, yan\u0131t olarak\u2026 O kadar!.. Kalakalm\u0131\u015ft\u0131m; Allah Allah, ben niye d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnemedim diye hay\u0131flanm\u0131\u015ft\u0131m. Birden nas\u0131l rahatlam\u0131\u015ft\u0131m: Ko yaps\u0131n!.. O \u00e7ocuk, engelleme\u2026 \u00f6yle \u00f6yle b\u00fcy\u00fcyecek, sab\u0131rl\u0131 ol biraz\u2026 merak etme, do\u011fa onun korunmas\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 dengeler\u2026 bak sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 bir \u00e7ocuk, \u015f\u00fckret\u2026<\/em> gibi bilgece anlamlar i\u00e7eriyordu.<\/p>\n

Sonradan e\u015fimle, otorite sorununa tak\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131zda yar\u0131 \u015faka yar\u0131 ciddi, devreye girerdi ko yaps\u0131n<\/em> form\u00fcl\u00fc\u2026 Bu kadar sevecen, ho\u015fg\u00f6r\u00fcl\u00fc bir yakla\u015f\u0131mdan etkilenmemek m\u00fcmk\u00fcn m\u00fc?<\/p>\n

Yeniyetmelik \u00e7a\u011f\u0131na geldi\u011finde \u00e7ocu\u011fun, bir \u015feyleri kendisinin ak\u0131l etmesine izin vermeli mi? Davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n\u0131 se\u00e7me \u00f6zg\u00fcrl\u00fc\u011f\u00fc tan\u0131mal\u0131 m\u0131 erkenden? \u00a0Yoksa genel do\u011frular\u0131 belletmeli mi \u00f6nce? Kal\u0131plar\u0131 kendinin k\u0131rmas\u0131n\u0131, \u00f6zg\u00fcrl\u00fck i\u00e7in bir sava\u015f\u0131m vermesini mi beklemeli?<\/p>\n

Do\u011frusu hangisi? Erken olgunla\u015fmak diye bir \u015fey var m\u0131, yoksa h\u0131zland\u0131r\u0131lm\u0131\u015f bir olgunla\u015fma evresi, sonraki ya\u015fam\u0131na bir kay\u0131p olarak m\u0131 ge\u00e7iyor insan\u0131n?<\/p>\n

Bunlar\u0131 soruyorum kendime… \u00c7ocuklu\u011funda maddi ya da manevi, ciddi \u00f6rselenmelere maruz kalmam\u0131\u015f olmas\u0131 ko\u015fuluyla de\u011ferlendiriyorum; yeti\u015fkin insan\u0131n, ald\u0131\u011f\u0131 yanl\u0131\u015f e\u011fitimin bile \u00fcstesinden gelebilece\u011fi sonucuna var\u0131yorum her seferinde\u2026 \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc akl\u0131 vard\u0131r, kurbanl\u0131k koyun de\u011fildir; t\u00fcm insanl\u0131\u011f\u0131n ezberindekilerden nasibini alm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r her insan, az \u00e7ok.<\/p>\n

Uygarl\u0131k birikimidir ezberimizdekiler, laf de\u011fil!<\/p>\n

Ak\u0131l hem etkilemek hem de etkilenmektir. Etkile\u015fmektir. Farkl\u0131 k\u00fclt\u00fcrlerden g\u00f6rg\u00fclenmektir. Gururu bir kenara b\u0131rakmakt\u0131r. Yaln\u0131z vermek de\u011fil, almay\u0131 da kabul etmek, hatta bunu beklemektir. Kat\u0131 davranmak yeti\u015fkin insana yak\u0131\u015fmaz.<\/p>\n

\u0130nsana ait her \u015feyi anlamaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmakt\u0131r ak\u0131l\u2026<\/p>\n

Toplumumuza uyarl\u0131yorum bu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncemi\u2026 \u00d6yleyse diyorum, haklar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131, \u00f6zg\u00fcrl\u00fcklerimizi i\u00e7imize sindirelim, sevelim; u\u011frunda sava\u015f\u0131m vermemi\u015f olsak da\u2026 \u0130nsanl\u0131\u011f\u0131n en eski birikimlerini dam\u0131tm\u0131\u015f bu topraklarda ya\u015faman\u0131n ayr\u0131cal\u0131\u011f\u0131yla\u2026<\/p>\n

21\/09\/2006 <\/em><\/p>\n

Bizim Sakarya Gazetesi<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

O\u011flum daha k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck bir \u00e7ocuktu. O zamanlar evimize temizli\u011fe gelen bir Ay\u015fe Teyzemiz vard\u0131. Yugoslavya g\u00f6\u00e7meniydi. \u00c7ok \u00e7ocuk do\u011furmu\u015f; birka\u00e7\u0131, san\u0131r\u0131m k\u00f6t\u00fc ya\u015fam ko\u015fullar\u0131ndan, bir k\u0131z\u0131 da 35 ya\u015f\u0131ndayken \u00e7ocu\u011funu do\u011furduktan sonra \u00f6lm\u00fc\u015ft\u00fc. Okuma yazma bilmezdi, ama \u00f6yle laflar ederdi ki\u2026 O\u011flumun yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131 bir yaramazl\u0131\u011f\u0131, biraz yak\u0131narak anlatm\u0131\u015ft\u0131m bir seferinde, o da \u201cKo yaps\u0131n k\u0131z\u0131m, […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[467],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.tamayacikel.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2972"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.tamayacikel.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.tamayacikel.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.tamayacikel.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.tamayacikel.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=2972"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.tamayacikel.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2972\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.tamayacikel.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=2972"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.tamayacikel.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=2972"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.tamayacikel.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=2972"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}