{"id":3036,"date":"2008-06-26T14:14:58","date_gmt":"2008-06-26T14:14:58","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.tamayacikel.com\/?p=266"},"modified":"2008-06-26T14:14:58","modified_gmt":"2008-06-26T14:14:58","slug":"bakici-hanim-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.tamayacikel.com\/?p=3036","title":{"rendered":"Bak\u0131c\u0131 han\u0131m"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Altm\u0131\u015f ya\u015f\u0131nda, k\u0131sa boylu, tombulca bir kad\u0131n\u2026 Ya\u015fl\u0131 ve Alzheimer hastas\u0131 bir kad\u0131na bak\u0131yor\u2026 Ya\u015fl\u0131 bakmay\u0131 seviyor. \u201cBen annesiz b\u00fcy\u00fcd\u00fcm; annemmi\u015f gibi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcyorum onlar\u0131\u2026\u201d diyor.<\/p>\n

N\u00fcfus kayd\u0131nda 10 ya\u015f b\u00fcy\u00fck g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcyor, \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc babas\u0131 k\u00f6y yerinde yeni n\u00fcfus k\u00e2\u011f\u0131d\u0131 \u00e7\u0131kartt\u0131rmam\u0131\u015f, \u00f6len ablas\u0131n\u0131nkini ona ge\u00e7irivermi\u015f! Okula ba\u015flayamam\u0131\u015f o y\u00fczden. Yazmay\u0131 hi\u00e7 bilmiyor. \u00c7at pat okuyabiliyor ancak.<\/p>\n

5\u20136 ya\u015f\u0131ndayken annesi hastalanm\u0131\u015f ve \u00f6lm\u00fc\u015f. K\u00f6yde babas\u0131n\u0131n yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131 b\u00fcy\u00fck, ah\u015fap bir evleri varm\u0131\u015f. Orada ya\u015f\u0131yorlarm\u0131\u015f. Marangozmu\u015f babas\u0131\u2026 \u0130yi bir marangozmu\u015f. Ablas\u0131yla ikisini evde b\u0131rak\u0131r \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmaya gidermi\u015f. Yemeklerini pi\u015firirmi\u015f, ihmal etmezmi\u015f ama. K\u00f6ydeki akrabalar\u0131 da yemek getirirlermi\u015f ara s\u0131ra.<\/p>\n

Babas\u0131 evlenmemi\u015f bir daha. \u0130kinci evlili\u011fi k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fcmsermi\u015f. \u00c7ocuklar\u0131na \u00fcvey ana gelmesin diye hep uzak durmu\u015f. Zorluklar\u0131 tek ba\u015f\u0131na g\u00f6\u011f\u00fcsleyebilmi\u015f. Yaramazl\u0131k yapt\u0131klar\u0131nda, s\u00f6z dinlemediklerinde azarlay\u0131p d\u00f6vmezmi\u015f. Yeri geldi\u011finde \u00f6yk\u00fcler, masallar anlatarak, k\u0131ssadan hisselerle do\u011fru yolu g\u00f6sterirmi\u015f. Bu dolayl\u0131 anlat\u0131m babas\u0131na kar\u015f\u0131 b\u00fcy\u00fck bir g\u00fcven uyand\u0131rm\u0131\u015f bak\u0131c\u0131 han\u0131mda.<\/p>\n

Evlendi\u011finde neredeyse \u00e7ocukmu\u015f. Hemen ard\u0131ndan bir o\u011flu d\u00fcnyaya gelmi\u015f. K\u00f6y\u00fc b\u0131rak\u0131p \u0130stanbul\u2019a g\u00f6\u00e7m\u00fc\u015fler, bir gecekondu yapm\u0131\u015flar elbirli\u011fiyle. Orada da bir k\u0131z do\u011furmu\u015f. \u00dc\u00e7 ya\u015f\u0131na gelmeden \u00f6l\u00fcvermi\u015f yavruca\u011f\u0131z! Sokakta oynuyormu\u015f, birden d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcp \u00f6lm\u00fc\u015f i\u015fte. Nedenini bilmiyor\u2026 K\u00f6ye d\u00f6nm\u00fc\u015fler. Bir s\u00fcre sonra kocas\u0131 \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmak i\u00e7in tekrar \u0130stanbul\u2019a gitmi\u015f, \u00fcstelik aylar boyu aray\u0131p sormam\u0131\u015f. O da so\u011fumu\u015f adamdan. Pek \u00f6yle sevememi\u015f de zaten\u2026 \u00c7ok dik kafal\u0131y\u0131m diyor s\u0131k s\u0131k. Kendini b\u00f6yle tan\u0131ml\u0131yor. A\u011fz\u0131ndan \u00e7\u0131kan a\u011f\u0131r bir s\u00f6z\u00fc bahane edip bo\u015fam\u0131\u015f adam\u0131. Ya\u015f\u0131 yirmi iki!.. O\u011flunu kap\u0131p gelmi\u015f tekrar \u0130stanbul\u2019a\u2026<\/p>\n

O da evlenmemi\u015f bir daha. T\u0131pk\u0131 babas\u0131 gibi\u2026<\/p>\n

Diki\u015f \u00f6\u011frenmi\u015f. Bir trikotaj at\u00f6lyesinde \u00e7al\u0131\u015fm\u0131\u015f o\u011flunu b\u00fcy\u00fct\u00fcrken. Babas\u0131 da gelmi\u015f sonra, k\u00f6yden. Destek olmu\u015f birka\u00e7 y\u0131l k\u0131z\u0131na. Sonra \u00f6lm\u00fc\u015f.<\/p>\n

O\u011flu okumu\u015f, askerli\u011fini yapm\u0131\u015f, i\u015fe girmi\u015f, evlenmi\u015f. Bu arada baba, o\u011fluyla hi\u00e7 ilgilenmemi\u015f. Baba y\u00fcz\u00fc g\u00f6rmeden b\u00fcy\u00fcm\u00fc\u015f \u00e7ocuk. Sonra bir iki kez g\u00f6rm\u00fc\u015f ve orada bitmi\u015f\u2026 So\u011fuk adam!<\/p>\n

\u201cBak\u0131c\u0131 han\u0131m\u201d diyorum, ama bak\u0131c\u0131l\u0131\u011fa emekli olduktan sonra ba\u015flam\u0131\u015f. Hep ya\u015fl\u0131lara bakm\u0131\u015f. Yatalak ya da b\u00f6yle Alzheimer hastas\u0131. Yani bak\u0131m\u0131 zor, insan\u0131n direncini zorlayan hastalar.<\/p>\n

\u00c7ok merhametli\u2026 Bak\u0131m\u0131 \u00e7ok \u00f6zenli. Tertemiz. Eksiksiz\u2026 \u0130\u015fi b\u0131rakma nedeni, ya\u015fl\u0131n\u0131n \u00f6l\u00fcm\u00fc olmu\u015f hep. Bir iki sefer de ya\u015fl\u0131n\u0131n yak\u0131nlar\u0131na k\u0131zd\u0131\u011f\u0131ndan\u2026 \u201cDik ba\u015fl\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131ndan!\u201d<\/p>\n

O\u011flunun evinde, kendine ait bir odas\u0131 var bak\u0131c\u0131 han\u0131m\u0131n. Emekli maa\u015f\u0131yla onlara destek oluyor. Onu yanlar\u0131nda istemiyor de\u011filler. \u0130stedi\u011fi anda evine d\u00f6nebilir. Ama o, ba\u015f\u0131na buyruk bir kad\u0131n i\u015fte! Kendi yolunu \u00e7izebilmi\u015f hep.<\/p>\n

Tutumlu kad\u0131n. Dikkatli harc\u0131yor, art\u0131rd\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 o\u011fluna veriyor. Kendi \u00e7ap\u0131nda yard\u0131mlar da yap\u0131yor hayr\u0131na\u2026 Kimseye hesap vermiyor.<\/p>\n

\u00c7ok a\u00e7\u0131k s\u00f6zl\u00fc ve d\u00fcr\u00fcst\u2026 Ayr\u0131ca, kendini zorluklarla s\u0131namay\u0131 seviyor.<\/p>\n

Bana s\u0131rad\u0131\u015f\u0131 gelen bir yan\u0131 da i\u00e7inde bulundu\u011fu ortamdan hi\u00e7 yak\u0131nmamas\u0131\u2026 Elindekileri k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fcmsememesi. \u00d6yle e\u011fitmi\u015f nefsini. Daha \u00f6nce \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131, \u015fehir d\u0131\u015f\u0131ndaki geni\u015f bah\u00e7eli bir evde sekiz ay boyunca bah\u00e7e duvar\u0131n\u0131n \u00f6tesine ge\u00e7memi\u015f!<\/p>\n

\u0130nsanlara kar\u015f\u0131 \u00e7ok temkinli, ama \u00e7ok da sevebiliyor. Sevdi\u011fini i\u00e7tenlikle s\u00f6yl\u00fcyor\u2026 Sert miza\u00e7l\u0131, ama kalp k\u0131rmaktan \u00f6d\u00fc kopuyor.<\/p>\n

\u015ea\u015f\u0131rt\u0131c\u0131 bi\u00e7imde, ya\u015fam\u0131ndaki t\u00fcm ayr\u0131nt\u0131lar\u0131 hat\u0131rl\u0131yor. Belki de hi\u00e7 de\u011fi\u015ftirmedi\u011fi y\u00f6resel a\u011fz\u0131na kar\u015f\u0131n ders verir gibi vurgulu konu\u015fmas\u0131yla kendini dinletmesini biliyor.<\/p>\n

D\u0131\u015f g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fc\u015fe ald\u0131rm\u0131yor. Zenginli\u011fe ve yoksullu\u011fa da\u2026 Bir insan\u0131n y\u00fcre\u011fi temiz mi, yaln\u0131z ona bak\u0131yor.<\/p>\n

El \u00f6rg\u00fcs\u00fc kazaklar, h\u0131rkalar hediye ediyor herkese\u2026 \u00c7abucak \u00f6r\u00fcveriyor. Hi\u00e7, ama hi\u00e7 can\u0131 s\u0131k\u0131lm\u0131yor. Ya\u015fl\u0131l\u0131k g\u00fcnleri i\u00e7in kayg\u0131lar\u0131 var m\u0131d\u0131r bilmem, ama \u015fimdilik \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131yor, \u00fcretiyor\u2026 Kimseye muhta\u00e7 de\u011fil ya\u2026 mutlu.<\/p>\n

Ya\u015f\u0131yor\u2026<\/p>\n

26\/06\/2008<\/em><\/p>\n

Bizim Sakarya Gazetesi<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Altm\u0131\u015f ya\u015f\u0131nda, k\u0131sa boylu, tombulca bir kad\u0131n\u2026 Ya\u015fl\u0131 ve Alzheimer hastas\u0131 bir kad\u0131na bak\u0131yor\u2026 Ya\u015fl\u0131 bakmay\u0131 seviyor. \u201cBen annesiz b\u00fcy\u00fcd\u00fcm; annemmi\u015f gibi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcyorum onlar\u0131\u2026\u201d diyor. N\u00fcfus kayd\u0131nda 10 ya\u015f b\u00fcy\u00fck g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcyor, \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc babas\u0131 k\u00f6y yerinde yeni n\u00fcfus k\u00e2\u011f\u0131d\u0131 \u00e7\u0131kartt\u0131rmam\u0131\u015f, \u00f6len ablas\u0131n\u0131nkini ona ge\u00e7irivermi\u015f! Okula ba\u015flayamam\u0131\u015f o y\u00fczden. Yazmay\u0131 hi\u00e7 bilmiyor. \u00c7at pat okuyabiliyor ancak. 5\u20136 […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[467],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.tamayacikel.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3036"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.tamayacikel.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.tamayacikel.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.tamayacikel.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.tamayacikel.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=3036"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.tamayacikel.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3036\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.tamayacikel.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=3036"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.tamayacikel.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=3036"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.tamayacikel.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=3036"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}